I've toyed with telling our story before, mainly inspired by Tim Challies' autobiographical series How I Got Here. Instead I just made a list. This is a sketch, with lots of details and subplots left out, of our emergence from 10+ years in a certain church (and a certain mode of church).
I wanted to stay because:
- I'd put half of my life into it and invested my gifts.
- I loved the people.
- I had friends.
- I long prayed for change, and some change was happening.
But I left because:
- I was starving for the gospel and not hearing it. Some weeks I wouldn't even hear the name of Jesus.
- An engaged couple told me their elder-endorsed pre-marital counselors told them that the Bible doesn't say pre-marital sex is wrong.
- The ministry I led was not supported by the church leadership. (There are all kinds of sub-stories for this reason, but I don't need to share them.)
- I lost confidence in the leadership I had previously taken great pains, in the face of constant criticism, to support.
- I finally realized it would be poor parenting to raise my children in a church that did not explicitly center on the supremacy of Christ.