I am hearing more and more of husbands who are not tending well to their wives' hearts. This occurs in the form of "using" their wives for ministry ends and business ends and family ends.
Some church planters and pastors will wield their wives like instruments in building the ministry or furthering the cause.
Some husbands will use up their wives for the cause of a "well-run family" or a "well-ordered home."
Gentlemen, are you doing this? Are you spending your wife to gain a ministry? That is marital suicide. Your primary ministry is to your wife.
Are you spending your wife to gain your children? That is a lose-lose enterprise, because you will lose your wife's heart and still not gain your children's (because they will see how you treat their mama).
The best thing you can do for your ministry and your kids is love your wife gently, tenderly, honorably, affectionately, wisely, romantically, and -- above all - Christly.